“Knowing what you're not good at helps you make better choices — and avoid unnecessary frustration.”
People are rarely happy doing things they’re not good at. It drains energy, creates stress, undermines confidence, and leads to frustration.
Some things just don’t come naturally — maybe you lack the talent, haven’t practiced enough, or simply haven’t learned it yet. And that’s perfectly okay.
Once you know where your challenges are, you can make smarter decisions, ask for help, or focus on learning what matters most.
Assignment
Make a list of things you’re (still) not good at.
These might be habits, skills, or situations that cost you energy, hold you back, or make you feel uncomfortable. Write your list however works best for you — on paper, or digitally using your phone, tablet, or laptop.
When you're done, choose the five things that get in your way the most — things that stop you from reaching your goals:
You’ll use this top 5 later when identifying your “recipes for disappointment” and exploring what you want to learn.
Tips to Get Started
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Ask people who know you well: “What do you think I still struggle with or could improve?”
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Think back to moments when something didn’t go well.
What skill or mindset were you missing at the time?
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Use the inspiration list below to find common examples.
Inspiration List
I’m (still) not good at...
adapting to change, asking for help, asserting myself, balancing work and life, being alone, being consistent, being on time, breathing calmly under stress, budgeting, building discipline, building new habits, building relationships, collaborating with others, communicating clearly, coping with pressure, coping with rejection, coping with stress, creative thinking, dealing with criticism, dealing with uncertainty, delegating tasks, developing a routine, digital organization, estimating time, expressing emotions, finishing what I start, following instructions, focusing for long periods, giving feedback, goal setting, handling money, handling social pressure, having difficult conversations, improvising, initiating action, keeping track of tasks, learning from mistakes, listening without interrupting, maintaining boundaries, managing anxiety, managing attention, managing emotions, managing my calendar, managing paperwork, meeting deadlines, networking, organizing daily life, organizing digital files, organizing thoughts clearly, planning ahead, prioritizing, problem-solving, processing feedback, public speaking, recognizing my own stress signals, resolving conflicts, saying no, self-reflection, setting realistic goals, speaking up in groups, starting new things, staying motivated, staying organized, sticking to a plan, studying efficiently, taking initiative, taking notes effectively, taking responsibility, talking about feelings, thinking positively, time management, using tools or technology, verbal communication, visualizing long-term goals, working independently, working in a team, writing clearly
Feel free to use your own words or add anything else that fits you.
